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Parenting With Love and LogicAre you a parent of a child six years or younger? Do you find that Calgon can't take you quite far enough away from parenting woes? Have you shed tears over behavior exhibited by your angel-turned-hellion? If so, these Love and Logic books by Foster and Cline are for you. These books impress the value of children experiencing the natural consequences of their actions (logic). Simultaneously, the authors encourage parents to empathize with their children prior to disciplining (love). For example, my daughter used to throw her food at lunch. I would say, "That's so sad. Lunch is over now." The beauty of this is that I could put an end to the behavior without lecturing and multiple warnings, and my daughter was able to experience immediate consequence for the behavior. According to the authors, children love to make choices and they recommend that you give them plenty. These choices, however, should be ones that okay with you and don't bother "anyone else on the planet." For example, I ask her, "Would you like milk or juice for lunch? Or would you like to wear your coat or carry it?" My favorite one still works, "Would you like to leave in 5 minutes or 10?" It still works! The approach presented in these books may sound simplistic to some but the techniques are simple and effective. The ultimate goal of using the Love and Logic techniques: raise responsible children that respect authority, have a positive self-concept, and who are able to make wise independent decisions now and throughout life. When I started trying the "experiments", I witnessed immediate results with my daughter. As a single mother, I would often feel distraught and certain that I was failing miserably as a parent. I now feel renewed by a sense of joy and hope. Love and Logic is simple yet powerful...try it for yourself! Parenting Resources Picky Eaters Good Child Guide Better Behavior Wheel Parenting Toolbox |
